Ever wondered why people around you are sometimes just sad, mad and too quiet?? Ever thought of why they are always behaving that way around you and different with other people??
Maybe it’s who they are right? Maybe it’s their nature or behavior and has nothing completely to do with you right??
How about a little self-introspection?
Who are you when you are around other people?? What energy do you propel to them? What kind of attitude do you give them when you are with them? How do you even communicate with them? Remember body language, tone reflects much of what your statements really convey.
Have you ever stopped to wonder why when you are at parties or weddings it’s all smiles? Everyone around you is bubbly, cheerful, and blissful, and celebrating with you. Same with funerals people are sad, they cry with you, they comfort you and try all they can to make you understand that they are with you in these trying times. But oh well it definitely has to do with the environment right??
Let me stop you right there for a minute. You create an environment, you create a mood in a conversation and atmosphere itself. There are those people that even when you try and try to have a blissful conversation with them it just somehow turns out cold. You don’t even know what to say next to them in as much as you want to talk to them. Don’t ever think there is something wrong with you, they are just showing you their mood and tone, that they might just not want to talk to you at that particular time. But if its an everyday thing, well this person just does not want to talk to you. The sooner you accept that the less it hurts.
Never the less, if you want to be around good happy people, be that person too, be happy and cheerful. If you want good vibes only, then be a good vibe to the next person. Learn to stop a little and ask yourself, “would I want to be around this kind of person I am right now?” If the answer is NO then you better change, there is something you doing wrong. There is something you need to fix before you meet the next person. Be approachable, don’t be judgmental, because you will miss important conversations, people and friends by judging too much. You will never be able to love and listen to someone when you have already placed a verdict on them.
At times we feel like there is something wrong with us, I might be cursed, people don’t like me, maybe I’m not cute enough, maybe it’s because of my poor background. But at times it’s just because of the energy you extend to others, how you carry yourself. If you are always moody do you think you would have people who would want to spend time with you???
The bible even says in Proverbs 11:17 a man who is kind benefits himself but a cruel man hurts himself. This gives you a glimpse into the life we live and the life we give those around us. Avoid pointing fingers, and coming up with outrageous excuses just because no one seems to like you. Have you tried extending a smile to other people, friends and strangers even? Have you greeted and welcomed them with open arms when they came running to you?? Always know a happy place is a welcoming and loved place. If happiness describes you, you will attract just happiness and utmost laughter. You definitely attract the mood and tone you give out.
Wait and introspect yourself, “who am I to the next person? A blessing, a good thing, happiness, an angel or the opposite”? Once you figure that out ask yourself another question, “would I want to be around me?” Having those answers will help you relate better with the next person, because you don’t only adapt to the energy in the room you also influence it.
Just smile, and the world will smile along with you.
MelNaturallySassy 